Hide and Seek
The Need For Boundaries
The surest way for me to get anyone to read the things I write is to begin a story with:
“OK, this is going to be a little personal…” or some variation of that.
I don’t mind. I understand that it’s our human nature to be curious of others and to want to peer into their private lives. It has been a survival mechanism our ancestors began employing more than ten thousand years ago.
Change isn’t hard. Changing is.
I have always been a pretty shy person. Less so today than most of my life, but still more than I probably should be and more than most people realize. I admit it makes standing on a stage in front of thousands of people each year a rather strange career choice, but when seen as a means of control, I would say it makes perfect sense.
Have A Purpose
Nearly all change is for the better. There are exceptions, of course, but for the most part when something or someone changes, the new version is almost always better than the original. If it wasn’t it probably wouldn’t have changed at all.
The Loyalty to Trump
Of all the elements of loyalty, Purpose is the most misunderstood. We have all become conditioned to believe that having a purpose is about the pursuit of some noble cause or generous act when, in fact, it is simply about having a clear intent and a commitment to follow through.
A Subtle Difference
After not writing for so long, I can’t believe my first blog post is about Donald Trump. I have been asked by several reporters over the past month why his followers are so loyal, so I figured it was probably time for me to add my two cents to the growing list of opinions that have already been offered. Maybe a brain science perspective on loyalty is appropriate given that we all need our head examined for even having this discussion.
Time and Money
I’m not really a “Be Different” kind of a guy. I know it’s the popular thing these days with many experts claiming it to be the only path to success in this highly competitive, and deeply recessed global economy. “You need to be unique, special, one-of-a-kind,” they say.
I don’t really agree.
What Are They Afraid Of?
My friend Dean is the best salesman I’ve ever known. He could sell anything and, in fact, pretty much has. Cars, Insurance, Software, Pharmaceuticals, Real Estate, you name it and Dean has sold it. I once asked him the secret to his success and he said, “That’s simple. Time. You can sell anything to anyone if you just convince them to give you their time.”
Dean knows what he’s talking about.
I wasn’t going to write about the recent events at Penn State University (http://nyti.ms/psuscandal and http://nyti.ms/psuriots). I felt that people who are much smarter and more articulate than I am were saying and writing everything that needed to be written and said. Even if I didn’t always agree with them.